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Practise wise compassion, rather than idiot compassion

  Today I read a fantastic blog post by Lisa Clark, of Sassyology.com, about “showing up” and not just concentrating on self love.  The post got me thinking, self love, self nurturance, self care, compassion – these are vitally important things.  I go on and on about them  BUT there does also have to be [...]

We are more than our labels

  October was lupus awareness month, I didn’t write about it, in fact I wanted to ignore it.  However, ignoring it is what brought me to my knees in my mid-twenties.  Today I found out about a number of young people, younger than me, who died due to their lupus this year and I felt [...]

Feeling the fear but lovingly facing it anyway

  When fear strike it can sometimes feel easier to bury ourselves under a numbing-blanket induced by a binge.  Eating seems to cover that feelings of fear, food can act like an avoidance tactic in a way.  However it is a false avoidance because often an over-eating episode can lead to HUGE feelings of shame, [...]

Hungry or Empty?

Investigating the deeper side of emotional eating can be like a spiritual unfolding, I have said that many times in these blog posts, you can find a porthole to your depths, to your soul.  When exploring food obsessions and emotional overeating we might come across feelings and needs we never knew that we had, because [...]

Do you prefer to shrink into the background and play it safe?

The times that I have stepped out of my comfort zone and followed the strong heart feeling to do something, or say something, even when I have been really nervous, are the times when big shifts have happened in my life.   For example when I was 23 I went into the city of London [...]

Emotional eating isn’t about the food but sometimes the food IS important

As you will know from my previous blog posts I rarely mention food, or types of food, when I talk about emotional eating, or comfort eating.  I see issues with food as a gateway into the soul, when we are eating when we are not hungry, or eating food that doesn’t make us feel good [...]

We are all so precious, let’s celebrate that!

Sometimes something happens to cause a powerful internal shift in our lives.  Looking back on my life a few powerful occasions jump out.  The end of a relationship and the loss of my riverside London home that I shared with the man.  The fizzling out of a friendship that meant so much to me.  My [...]

Do you need chocolate or do you really need a hug?

Chocolate.  Dark, milk, raw, organic.  Chocolate.  Yum.  Raw, dark chocolate is something I really enjoy and savour.  However there was a time that dark chocolate felt like my best friend.  Eating the ‘black gold’ seemed to soothe my soul, chocolate was love.  Or so I thought – until I would wake up from my daze [...]

Choose self-love today

  If you truly loved yourself:   *How would you talk to yourself? *What would you wear? *What would you do for relaxation? *What would you do for pleasure? *What events would you go to? *What events would you say ‘no’ to? *What would you choose to eat and drink? *What would your friends be [...]

Comfort eating? Take a look at your stress levels

Emails, phone-calls, children, pets, partners, work, money, social life, friends, family…..  anxiety and complete overwhelm?!!!  Sometimes it feels like we cannot keep up with the pace, our list of things to do, people to keep happy and other commitments becomes out of hand.  This is when we need to learn to STOP, BREATHE and remember [...]