Ani Richardson

Learning to love yourself as you are now does not mean staying stuck

  Starting out on the journey of learning to love yourself where you are, and how you are, right now is NOT passive. It does not mean that you will stay the same without change. When I speak about self-love a resistance often comes up for people. They seem to believe that if they love [...]

What does wellness mean to you?

  Holistic wellness, to me, is about nurturing, and being in balance with, the whole self: our body, emotions, mind, soul and Spirit – this creates a feeling of ‘being well’ Halbert L. Dunn said that “wellness is a direction in progress toward an ever-higher potential of functioning” he also stated that wellness was “an [...]

Practise wise compassion, rather than idiot compassion

  Today I read a fantastic blog post by Lisa Clark, of Sassyology.com, about “showing up” and not just concentrating on self love.  The post got me thinking, self love, self nurturance, self care, compassion – these are vitally important things.  I go on and on about them  BUT there does also have to be [...]

Support on your journey toward healing emotional eating

  In the past women enjoyed a much stronger sense of community, they met in groups to talk and share their stories and support one another along their life-journeys and through challenges.  The sense of support and female community is still strong within tribal cultures, here in the western world this sacred feminine system has [...]

We are more than our labels

  October was lupus awareness month, I didn’t write about it, in fact I wanted to ignore it.  However, ignoring it is what brought me to my knees in my mid-twenties.  Today I found out about a number of young people, younger than me, who died due to their lupus this year and I felt [...]

Feeling the fear but lovingly facing it anyway

  When fear strike it can sometimes feel easier to bury ourselves under a numbing-blanket induced by a binge.  Eating seems to cover that feelings of fear, food can act like an avoidance tactic in a way.  However it is a false avoidance because often an over-eating episode can lead to HUGE feelings of shame, [...]

Connecting to you inner safe space

  This photo was taken out in Sri Lanka in January 2011, the moment is etched in my mind, the baby elephant was playing around in the water but each time it got frightened it would run to hide with mum for a while until courage built back up again and it would venture back [...]

Assertiveness – Are you eating your ‘NO’?!

  In the past I was Ani, the girl who would do anything and everything for people she knew.  ‘No’ was not something I knew how to say, I hadn’t learned how to have boundaries and assertiveness was not in my personal dictionary.  I was a give, give, giver and a do, do do-er.  I [...]

Hungry or Empty?

Investigating the deeper side of emotional eating can be like a spiritual unfolding, I have said that many times in these blog posts, you can find a porthole to your depths, to your soul.  When exploring food obsessions and emotional overeating we might come across feelings and needs we never knew that we had, because [...]

Do you prefer to shrink into the background and play it safe?

The times that I have stepped out of my comfort zone and followed the strong heart feeling to do something, or say something, even when I have been really nervous, are the times when big shifts have happened in my life.   For example when I was 23 I went into the city of London [...]