self love

I am woman. Honouring the Divine Feminine Within

  Recently I have been drawn to read many books that deal with the Divine feminine and the worth of women, some of these include the following: *Joan Borysenko – A Woman’s Spiritual Journey. Finding the feminine path to fulfilment *Marianne Williamson – A Woman’s Worth *Meggan Watterson – REVEAL. A sacred manual for getting [...]

Abuse and eating may be linked but steps toward healing can be taken

  Many studies have linked physical, sexual and emotional abuse in childhood to an increased risk of obesity, binge eating and other eating disorders in adulthood. This connection seems particularly strong in women. Today I read a study (1), and corresponding press release (2), which found that women who experienced severe physical or sexual abuse [...]

How do you cope when it feels like you are riding a roller-coaster of emotions?

  Recently I have been challenged in ways I hadn’t expected. Over the last 10 years I have been learning to ‘be’ with my emotions, to feel them, to allow them, to witness them change, rather than react to them via eating or other escape mechanisms. If you read my blog posts you will see [...]

Learning to be who you are in any given moment

  Last week as I was walking the dogs a lady power-walked by with a T-shirt on that read: “Strong is the new skinny”. Slogans like this one  have been going around Facebook and other internet sites. I have also seen this same slogan on photos of ‘ripped’ women in the gym doing planks and [...]

Food and sex

  The following is an excerpt from Love or Diet which is due to be published very shortly (exciting!): “When women begin to look at patterns, feelings and needs they often find that their eating and feelings of sexuality, sexual power and sexual beauty are all linked. Many, but not all women who suffer with emotional [...]

Emotional eating as a mis-interpreted call to connect to your body

  At the moment I am reading “REVEAL, A sacred manual for getting spiritually naked” by Meggan Watterson, you may have read some of the quotes from the book that I posted on my Facebook page. I highly recommend this book, it is beautifully written. Meggan writes about many things including how to begin honouring ourselves. Last [...]

When we slip back into body criticism how can we recover?

  Yesterday my friend and mentor, Lisa Lister, wrote a beautiful blog post, Every body has a story, which touched me deeply. In the post Lisa writes: “I’m a size 18/20 and I’m hot. I have a gorgeous friend who is a size 8, she’s hot too. Society would like to label us ‘fat’ and [...]

Investing in yourself is an act of self care

  For years I found it difficult to spend money on myself. I thought it was selfish. On some level I believed I just wasn’t worth it. Spending money on my friends and family was easy, if I was out I always offered to pay, I bought beautiful gifts for the loved ones in my [...]

Cultivating an attitude of gratitude

    Today I am filled with gratitude for many things: for waking up in a warm bed (it is mid-March and still feeling like winter here in the UK), for the singing birds, for Chris and Fredd-dog, for a lovely morning walk, for hot running water….and so much more! If you are a regular [...]

Learning to love yourself as you are now does not mean staying stuck

  Starting out on the journey of learning to love yourself where you are, and how you are, right now is NOT passive. It does not mean that you will stay the same without change. When I speak about self-love a resistance often comes up for people. They seem to believe that if they love [...]